- guilty of this, yes~
1) no matter how hard you try you can’t get him/her out of your head…
2) little cute gestures of his/hers can make your heartbeat go nuts…
3) before saying “goodbye”, you are already thinking “when can I see you again?”
I don’t think there’s anything wrong with using the cyber world to find love. You get access to some of the people that you might never meet in everyday life. But do caution that people can set up a pretentious “profile” of themselves and don’t disclose all your information online in the beginning.
Careful with your selection of what type of guy to date/not date and choose a more public area for meetup/first dates to ensure your safety! Most importantly, have fun and experiment!
- feel her warmth, her heart
Most definitely, you WILL feel awkward. Even though you knew this guy, but not seeing him for 4 years means things had been pretty distance between you two. But then again you guys are not complete strangers so definitely you don’t have to worry AS MUCH as on a blind first date.
Well, great him, with a hug not a handshake. That will warm up things faster and let you feel more comfortable immediately. Avoid things that are too personal, so ask him how his life had been over these 4 years, where he traveled, what new hobbies he discovered. Then share some of your experience too! Friendly conversations will soon make you guys rekindle and bond like old times.
After a while if sitting down talking already got you guys pretty close, suggest to go outside to do something fun together. When you are physically moving, conversation usually flow so much better!
Don’t over dress for the occasion but not under-dress either. You want him to feel like he’s in a friendly environment but not that you don’t care enough for him ;)
Good luck dear!
girls, stop it ;)
In general, for the first date you are just getting to know the other person and leaving a general first impression to see whether you guys want to continue or stop this possible relationship from proceeding further.
So, keeping things simple and comfortable, but with a bit of added glam, is the way for girls to go!
Wear something that’s sweet, feminine and not overly hugging your curves or exposing. The attention should be kept on your face and your personality. Also you want him to feel comfortable as well and not feeling distracted by what you wear.
Make up, keep it simple as well. Only to enhance your features with little touches like some tinted moisturizer to balance out your complexion and neutral shadows to contour your eyes. AVOID dramatic lipsticks, they are hard to maintain and might cause embarrassing situations.
Topics? Stick with the casual “getting to know you” questions. Don’t probe too personal questions or heavy subjects, subjects that can lead to disagreement or controversies. Things like the person’s background culture, travel and unique personal experiences are great since everyone can relate to that. You want to pay attention and really listen when the other person is saying. AVOID talking too much about yourself, I know I need to watch out on that personally ;)
Lastly, just have fun! It’s not a test or interview and be yourself as much as you can. Good luck!
Ever considered pushing him a little farther than this comfort zone? We are only scared of the unknown, so once he did what frightened him and realized it was not a big deal, then more and more he will be able to open up to you.
Talk to him, let him know that you want him to contact you as often as he wants and it’s normal for people who like each other to feel that urge and comply to that urge! Even, give him a set schedule, ask him to text you at least once per day, doesn’t matter what subject/time. Let him slowly form the habit and give him lots of encouragement along the way.
We are not born broken. And everyone is bound to experience frustration and sadness in life. If we can fix it with our strength and the love/support from others, we can definitely feel fine again!
Lol, feel like I’ve made this type of post for a couple times now, but hey….please forgive me I had my reasons.
Things in my life have changed drastically in the past few months and I’ve been adjusting to it and dealing with all quietly. But I’m at a better state now and am ready to begin our journey once again, followers!
There’s a common misconception that the tighter we keep our eyes on someone, the better we have control over them. However, it usually only manage to push our loves farther away.
Every couple, regardless of how loving they are to each other, should always allow some personal space. It gives them a break from being “we” and just being “me”. That’s important because 1) it keeps the romance sparks going long; 2) it allows each other to breathe and still remain their individual identity and social life.
No one likes to be chained down, that’s why kids rebel against overprotective parents, that’s why caged birds flee once you open their gate. If they are as comfortable around you as they can be, then your love had already created that most secure bond between you two that surpasses any physical actions that need to be taken.
One last important thing, you need to have your own world. DON’T make him everything that you revolve around, it puts on an enormous amount of pressure on him, and it makes you slowly loses sight of yourself. He must have fell in love with you for who you are, an interesting/fun/independent/unique individual, so just continue “being yourself” is enough to secure this love. Trust is the basic foundation of any healthy relationship, so you just have to trust him or leave him.
One big change I noticed as we age is that we no longer are so obsessed with people’s relationship status. People also no longer are that openly about it as in who they are in a relationship with or whether they decide to even put forward this information to the general public.
Why? I often ponder. Some people told me that when they are young, they don’t know how to define themselves. So in huge part, their relationship status determined who they are. Whether they are “popular” or “attractive”, whether they are worthy of people’s attention and deserved friends. Now as they have grown and matured, they feel like that’s no longer all who they are anymore, and they also don’t want the world to solely focus on that as well.
Others might say “oh it changes too often so I might as well just not have it in sight in the first place!” True, in certain cases.
I feel like as we age, our interests expand as well as our horizon. Our definition of happiness is no longer as simple as what it was 10 years ago, and also who determines our happiness changes as well. As much as it is a pleasure to share our tear of joys with the rest of the world, sometimes it’s even more meaningful when we can keep that as our little secrets, sharing it only with our dearest ones.
You can only find peace when you and your lover are the only one who have a say in your relationship, and you might also find that quarrels happen less often as well.
But hey, nothing wrong with what you decide to put on as your “tag of love”. When in doubt, one word sums it up, it’s “complicated” XD