For ~ wuw~ Faith

Hi dear,

First, to get loved by girls, you have to be confident enough in yourself to attract their attention. Some weird psychological study had proven that if you really believe you are worthy of the opposite sex’s attention and act like it, they will believe it too!

Second, have a sense of humor, not forced or faked. You might see someone can make the girls laugh with one type of joke, but if you know that’s not your style, DON’T force yourself to be that type. Girls will likely be able to see through it right away and you won’t feel comfortable doing it yourself either.

Third, know what you are good at and how it off! Whatever it is, as long as you are good at it and passionate about it, guess what, you will look super cool in girls’ eyes.

I guess everything comes down to how comfortable are you at being “you”, and can you show it off well to the girls? You can only put on a mask for so long before someone discover the truth.

Hi dear,

I think you raised a quite interesting point, that is where do we need to set the line between friendly vs. flirty.

Girls are usually more touchy than guys, and to guys sometimes it can be read as a signal of interest. So, when you know a guy is for sure not your type and you don’t want him to get the wrong idea, try to stay away from flirty-moves such as touching his arm, cross-linking arms together, hug too excessively, and sitting on his laps. Although it’s definitely not your fault for having a more lenient boundary, but you can’t also force others to all have your point of view and not think wrongly.

My suggestion is that, it’s always good for a girl to keep her boundary clear. One thing is that with this society’s mindset, people often would give these girls more respect and the title “lady-like”. Another is that it’s easier for the guys who are interested in you to tell that you are interested in them from your behaving more flirty around them, and that you are not interested or too close with too many guys so they are afraid to approach you.

Then again, these are just my perspective and it’s not the only way girls should live by. Of course being more outgoing is always a bonus to your personality, but if you want to avoid these same comments/frustrations in the future, you might be able to find a point or two useful in modifying your way of socializing with boys :) 

Hi dear,

First I would suggest that you get a basic feel about where you guys are right now. If you had been particularly friendly with her and spending a lot of time with her, then she might already have some idea that you like her, girls are very sensitive to these things. If you guys just started to hang out recently, maybe you need to lay down some foundations before you officially break it to her. 

In reality, by the time you ask a girl out, even she was not prepared for it or wasn’t going to say yes this time, she will develop some nice feelings towards you. Girls in general just really like it when guys compliments or find her adoring, so be bold and just ask. You want to have this romantic relationship that’s sweet and heart-warming, so before you can obtain that, think of this chance that you took as the price you have to pay initially. No pain no gain right? I would suggest that you take this to a private scenery so there’s no one around to be your witness. Then even if she says no, at least it’s between the two of you. 

When you ask a girl out, be very sincere and honest, and CONFIDENT. Try not to stutter too much, but a little nervousness is fine since some girl find it cute and it’s very hard not be for the first time. When she do says yes, don’t rush up and kiss her on the mouth (unless she had hinted she wanted you to), holding hands and a light kiss on the cheeks are very sweet gestures to show just how much you treasure her. Your first few dates don’t have to be restaurant fancy dinner level, take her out to a park or even for a nice walk can do the trick just fine. You want to be able to have nice conversations, get to know each other better, and lay down the foundation well at first. Don’t do anything you are not comfortable doing, and before you make a decision, ask her opinions on it to show your respect. Also, you can surprise her with a rose/little present on your first date as well or the 10th date or something, girls really love little surprises :) Last point, be a good listener, and always let her know your feelings verbally but don’t overuse the word “love” if you guys are not ready.