Anonymous asked:I'm so hurt by my boyfriend of 5 month cheating on me. It's the 3rd time but he was drunk at a party. He's been apologizing for a while now and a part of me wants to forgive him but a part also wants to end it for real. He promised to never do it again, and he's so sweet to me when we got together, should I forgive him?
Even though it might seem like it’s not “his fault” and he was “driven by alcohol”, but in his subconscious he was prepared for something like this to happen, and that’s what’s causing the problem. He might not be able to control what happens after he gets drunk, but he can control whether or not to drink and how much to drink in the first place. If he was truly responsible, none of this would have happened.
I’m not sure if someone had cheated for multiple times that they are truly sorry for what they have done to their partner. The first time might be an accident but lesson should be learned and he needs to show through actions to earn your trust again. To me, it doesn’t seem like he is taking your forgiveness and the responsibilities in a relationship too seriously. I would carefully think before i make my decision since it’s likely that he’s not at the right level of maturity to be in a serious relationship, and are you prepared to get hurt again, for the 4th time?