For ~ wuw~ Faith

Hi dear,

Even though it might seem like it’s not “his fault” and he was “driven by alcohol”, but in his subconscious he was prepared for something like this to happen, and that’s what’s causing the problem. He might not be able to control what happens after he gets drunk, but he can control whether or not to drink and how much to drink in the first place. If he was truly responsible, none of this would have happened.

I’m not sure if someone had cheated for multiple times that they are truly sorry for what they have done to their partner. The first time might be an accident but lesson should be learned and he needs to show through actions to earn your trust again. To me, it doesn’t seem like he is taking your forgiveness and the responsibilities in a relationship too seriously. I would carefully think before i make my decision since it’s likely that he’s not at the right level of maturity to be in a serious relationship, and are you prepared to get hurt again, for the 4th time?

Hi dear,

I think in a way you just answered your own question ;)

Obviously you are scared of getting hurt, we all are, but in a way it’s the beauty of life. You don’t know it so it’s mysterious and exciting, I mean that’s why a movie trailer never show you the ending or what exactly is going on, because there’s no interest to watch it. 

If you could give up this 3 years of feelings and he’s interest in you, then you wouldn’t be asking me this question or feel the dilemma. It’s because you tried but you don’t want to let it go this easily, that’s why your heart is aching.

Romance is not meant to be predictable and I don’t think you want it to be either. Everyone is faced with the same risk whenever they decide to enter a relationship. However, if you never cross that line you will always have only one outcome, but if you did then you will have two possibilities. Never give up before you even tried, because that regret you will have is going to last for life.

Hi dear,

Sorry to hear your situation, but I was wondering, what did your boyfriend ask you to change? And did you change in his request in order to fix your relationship?

I’m assuming you must have tried in some ways to fix the problem, and I also want you to know that if a guy has already made up his mind about leaving, then no matter how much you beg or cry, he’s love for you cannot return to how it was in the beginning. 

Also, one reason why girls end up losing their guy is because they made the guy their everything. When love and care becomes suffocation, all your love want would be to escape from your embrace. Every guy loves a strong, independent girl who has her own world, and they want to feel like they lucked out to be able to have you.

But if you revolve everything around him and worship him like a saint, saint will never worship you back. 

If there’s any way that he’s telling you you can fix the problem, by all means, try, so you won’t have any regrets. But if the break up is inevitable, please remember, no one is worth losing your life for, no one. It might feel like that initially, but as time goes on, you will find that there’s no on that you can’t live without. You have to feel self-worthy, self-loving in order for other people to want you, to want to love you. If you don’t even want yourself anymore, then how to expect others to find love in you?

He could be your everything, but if he leaves, then he is no longer your everything in the future. He was an important part of your life, however, he can only love you this much. Your journey afterwards, there will be another guy, even more perfect and more amazing than your boyfriend now. This new guy can only give you more than the amount this guy had loved you. 

Everyday there’s many couples who end their relationship. They feel hurt when their heart breaks, but they pick up the pieces and move on. You can do it too! If you stop here, then you won’t ever meet that special guy who’s your Mr. Right. So please, by all means, keep walking and keep loving. The journey is hard, but it’s a worth while path.

Hi dear,

You know every break up is different because we are dealing with different type of people. Ourselves are different too and the level of pain we are able to handle varies. I think first you need to let yourself know that you are not someone that’s that weak, and you are going to get through this in the end. Having something to hope for, like “a better tomorrow than today”, is always going to help you survive during the toughest time.

Next, you have to accept the fact that you guys are broke up already. He will no longer take on that “significant other” role in your life, and the routine/habits that were shared between you two now are just history. You need to stop visiting or giving yourself the chance to remind you of him and your love. 

Third step would be to seek out support in your friends and family. You might had been neglecting them while you were in relationship with your ex, now is the perfect time to re-establish your bonds. Go out with them and fill your schedule with activities with them, so there won’t be empty slots for you to think about your ex. 

When you find that you are able to think about your ex with no hate or any emotional swing, then you are ready to welcome someone else into your heart. I still agree that the best therapy for a break up is a new relationship. Someone to give you hope, help you heal, and let you see that there’s still so much love out there for you to enjoy. That person in someway is giving your love life a rebirth.

After completion of this stage, I would officially congrats you that you had already moved on, my dear :)