tehemmers asked:I met a guy online and have been talking to him for two months now. He lives about an hours drive away.We both consider ourselfs as at least friends now but would both like more. We want to meet in person, but he seems heasitant. I'm worried I'm being too clingy but I'm just trying to be as much of myself as I can. I just like him a lot and haven't had too much experience with dating people. How can I relax? And what should I do about him being heasitant.
What I consider is that sometimes, you either take the “move” or you take the regret later on. If one person is hesitant to start, why can’t the other person be the more enthusiastic one to make things work? I mean you only get a fire if you start off with a wood and a fire, but you will never get a spark if both are wood you know?
Lol, what I’m trying to say is, someone has to make the move, and if it’s not going to be him, let it be you. It’s not called clingy, it’s called taking the initiative right. This obviously separates from “stalling someone”, eg. you call once in a week or 2 weeks if he hasn’t responded, to suggest activities to do together; in comparison to you call everyday to “check up on him”.
In terms of being more relaxed, I would suggest using other activities/friends to take your mind off of him. If he needs space and time, then give him what he needs to feel comfortable, but not too much that you lose the connection :)