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tehemmers

tehemmers asked:

I met a guy online and have been talking to him for two months now. He lives about an hours drive away.We both consider ourselfs as at least friends now but would both like more. We want to meet in person, but he seems heasitant. I'm worried I'm being too clingy but I'm just trying to be as much of myself as I can. I just like him a lot and haven't had too much experience with dating people. How can I relax? And what should I do about him being heasitant.

Hi dear,

What I consider is that sometimes, you either take the “move” or you take the regret later on. If one person is hesitant to start, why can’t the other person be the more enthusiastic one to make things work? I mean you only get a fire if you start off with a wood and a fire, but you will never get a spark if both are wood you know?

Lol, what I’m trying to say is, someone has to make the move, and if it’s not going to be him, let it be you. It’s not called clingy, it’s called taking the initiative right. This obviously separates from “stalling someone”, eg. you call once in a week or 2 weeks if he hasn’t responded, to suggest activities to do together; in comparison to you call everyday to “check up on him”.

In terms of being more relaxed, I would suggest using other activities/friends to take your mind off of him. If he needs space and time, then give him what he needs to feel comfortable, but not too much that you lose the connection :)

Anonymous

Anonymous asked:

So theres this guy I really like, almost in love like, but the thing is he's literally my best friends brother. I dont know what to do because i think he likes me back (texts me, says im amazing) and i seriuously love him. I mean I smile and sometimes fricken GIGGLE when he texts me,even before i read it. Idont want my best friend to think im using her but she already knows i like him not that i love him. Help?

Hi dear,

If she already knows, then what’s really preventing you guys from taking a step forward? Even if she doesn’t, all you have to do is tell her. She’s your bestfriend, I think all she want would be both of you to be happy and couldn’t be more happier herself since it only makes you guys closer. Besides, it’s like an extra security blanket and things you can talk to since she practically sees him everyday.

But I do think you need to be on the fence of telling her everything between you and the guy if you guys do manage to go out in the end. Guys usually don’t like to share everything about their relationship with their siblings, and you obviously don’t want him to label you as “my sister’s friend” instead of his girl right? So keep the amount of secrets you spill to your friend at a limit, other than this, I really don’t think there’s anything else you should be worried about :)