So I've never stopped having feelings for this guy since almost 2 years. We dated once but then we decided o just be friends...he's an amazing guy all around and the only person that can cheer me up, and I want to tell him that I like him again but I feel like that would mess up our friendship again, what should I do?-
What you need to do is figure out what’s the cause of your break up first. Sometimes when a couple had been broken up for a while, they forget the pain and only remember the sweetness, and think why wouldn’t they work out the 2nd time. But the problem which caused you two to separate is still there, and it will become the barrier that you guys can’t surpass again.
So if you want to let him know about your feelings and make your relationship work out the 2nd time, you need to find the root of the problem and fix it. Is it that you guys can’t seem to compromise, always argue, don’t have personal space…etc. Find it, fix it, and then you can have a little more confidence that the 2nd time around will be so much better.
Today, the guy I've liked since the beginning of the year, came over to my house. He hugged me a few times, tried to hold my hand, then he carried me up the stairs to my room. We just talked, laid around. While he was laying on my bed, he grabbed me so I was laying on the other side of him .He would come & lay his head on my stomach, put his arm around me. But, he has a girlfriend. He's never been this flirty, I guess, with me. He says that he's not making any moves on me. What does it mean?
It’s obviously that it’s no longer “just friends” between you two, but what’s concerning is that he is not single. It’s unfair for him to provoke you like this and yet still remaining in a relationship with his girlfriend, it’s also disloyal to his girlfriend. He is not entitled to make a move on you since he is not your boyfriend. He could be very fond of you, but he is not ready to make a commitment to you yet and is not sure if he wants to make things serious with you. He probably has a rough idea that you like him and he is banking on this fact so you would be ok with him acting flirty.
Next time if he ever does anything more physical or brings up this subject again, you need to let him know where you stand on this matter. Don’t let him take advantage of the fact that you like him, and let him know that if he wants to be more than friends with you, he needs to clear his path first to show you that he means it.
Just because you like someone doesn’t mean you are inferior to them. If you are not ok with it or want him to take you seriously, you need to take the proper stand.
Hey so I've liked this guy for years and finally he likes me too and he has been telling other ppl. But he has also told me he likes me and two other girls and i told him I like him but he hasn't really done anything. Also my friend likes him and she has no luck with guys and he likes me now so if he asks me out idk what to say and I will feel bad because i didn't tell her i really liked him too. So i was wondering if you think he will ask me out what should i do about my friend?
Believe it or not, falling for the same person is quite common among friends, since you both will have the same social circle and friends sometimes do tend to share similar interest. But it doesn’t mean as friends, you guys would have to stop liking someone just because your other friend also is fond of them. That’s not part of the friendship agreement (if it exists).
Of course jealousy and awkwardness can be involved at the initial stage, but I believe if they are here to stay, then friendship do last even longer than romance. If they are your true friend, they would eventually see pass it and value your friendship more than a “fight over a guy”.
But being honest with your feelings with your friend definitely helps. Let her know that you had been liking this guy for quite a while now as well, and openly compete for him instead of hiding it. Maybe along the way, either you or her discovered someone even more awesome or lost interest in this guy, and it would no longer be a competition. Needless to say, no one has to give up for the other person to be a “good friend”, because love is selfish and kept between the two partners.
Theres a girl that I've known since we were in pre-school and freshman year of high school we started to date. It was great at first but as the years went on we grew apart. Its been three years and we just broke up. The thing is is that both of us are bad in relationships and she has admitted to me that she still loves me but she doesn't want a relationship right now. She asked me if when she was ready for a relationship if i would be there. I love her so much. What should i do with this love?
It’s like that post I wrote before “Most important lesson in love”, and that is you have to learn to love yourself, then you are prepared to love others. It’s true that a lot of the couple break up not because they don’t love anymore, it’s because they can’t compromise and cope with the responsibilities of being in a relationship.
We need to mature, physically, mentally, emotionally to handle more challenges, and being in a relationship is a challenge. Everyone needs their time to become fully prepared and until you are ready, you will always find yourself “bad” in relationships.
Of course as of now, you both still have feelings for each other so it’s hard to look beyond this. It’s definitely possible for you both to wait and finally click in the future and the 2nd time would be all magical and smooth. There’s also that possibility that you both again, would mature, and be ready to commit, but to different people you have found in life.
We change, we all do, and no one can promise or guarantee anything. It’s beautiful to hope for that fairytale, but also be prepared to face whatever life has planned out and didn’t plan out for you :)
I'm so hurt by my boyfriend of 5 month cheating on me. It's the 3rd time but he was drunk at a party. He's been apologizing for a while now and a part of me wants to forgive him but a part also wants to end it for real. He promised to never do it again, and he's so sweet to me when we got together, should I forgive him?
Even though it might seem like it’s not “his fault” and he was “driven by alcohol”, but in his subconscious he was prepared for something like this to happen, and that’s what’s causing the problem. He might not be able to control what happens after he gets drunk, but he can control whether or not to drink and how much to drink in the first place. If he was truly responsible, none of this would have happened.
I’m not sure if someone had cheated for multiple times that they are truly sorry for what they have done to their partner. The first time might be an accident but lesson should be learned and he needs to show through actions to earn your trust again. To me, it doesn’t seem like he is taking your forgiveness and the responsibilities in a relationship too seriously. I would carefully think before i make my decision since it’s likely that he’s not at the right level of maturity to be in a serious relationship, and are you prepared to get hurt again, for the 4th time?
the way to my car, held my hand, made sure I was comfortable, everything. We talked for a good while, almost about everything from childhood and just random things. He asked if we could meet up again before he leaves this weekend for summer classes. He attends a college about 3 hrs away. I haven’t talked to him since our meeting. I’m kind of waiting for him to say something first because I respect his relationship with his gf. I don’t want to come in between them. He never knew I had.. pt3
You are definitely falling for this guy, though it might not work out to your benefit, but at least he told you already that he has a girlfriend. The thing is, I would be less concerned if he wasn’t all socharming. It’s nice for old online friends to meet up but how would you feel if your boyfriend went alone to meet a girl from online? No matter how friendly and pure the conversations and actions were, I don’t think what he had done would be considered a good boyfriend.
He could have made this met up at a social event or with a couple other friends if possible, because I think what he did is not only sending you the wrong message, making you fall harder, and also being disrespectful to his girlfriend.
I do think you should clear your mind a bit. Knowing that he is unavailable at the moment, and try to keep a safe distance with him, don’t fall even harder and meet up with him alone until he is officially single. I know this might give you the thrill and rush of excitable, but not acting out responsibly will only get yourself hurt in the end. If you guys are meant to be and he has the desire to do so as well, then he will clear the path for you. But until then, keep your heart safe.
right so I like this boy and we are friends but we don't talk much. I have liked him for 2 years but I have never told him :( he probably wouldn't want to be with me because I'm transgender but not to mention he now has a girlfriend
Someone’s sexual orientation will not stand in the way of love because if they are able to love you, they would have accepted everything about you. Most of the time people are charmed by someone’s personality, wisdom, and confidence instead of restricted to being a girl or a guy.
Now the issue of him having a girlfriend. Of course being in a relationship doesn’t mean you can’t like him, but part of liking a person includes respect their decisions and protect their happiness. Obviously he has deep feelings for this girl and want to be with her, and this decision should be honoured and respected. At least you know that he’s a guy that’s not afraid of commitment, and if in the future he ever becomes available, don’t be hesitated to make your move. You know you don’t want to regret and miss your chance again :)
I've liked this guy for 3 years and feelings never went away. He told me he liked me too and on my birthday he's leaving for training in the military for 10 weeks. He's 3 years older. I know that if I wait for him and something happens between us and then he decides he doesn't want me, I'll be destroyed. And I know that if I walk away, saying all the things I have left to say, it'll hurt less. But what if I walk away and make the wrong choice? What if he's the one? What should I do?
I think in a way you just answered your own question ;)
Obviously you are scared of getting hurt, we all are, but in a way it’s the beauty of life. You don’t know it so it’s mysterious and exciting, I mean that’s why a movie trailer never show you the ending or what exactly is going on, because there’s no interest to watch it.
If you could give up this 3 years of feelings and he’s interest in you, then you wouldn’t be asking me this question or feel the dilemma. It’s because you tried but you don’t want to let it go this easily, that’s why your heart is aching.
Romance is not meant to be predictable and I don’t think you want it to be either. Everyone is faced with the same risk whenever they decide to enter a relationship. However, if you never cross that line you will always have only one outcome, but if you did then you will have two possibilities. Never give up before you even tried, because that regret you will have is going to last for life.
Is it how to attract or please the opposite sex? Is it how to display romantic gestures and behaviors? No, non of that.
The most important and first less you have to learn in order to love someone, is how to respect, love, and treat yourself properly.
Over and over, the problems arise in couples is due to someone is not loving themselves properly, and thus the relationship between the two is unbalanced. You either will make the other person your only reason of existence and try to chain them down with your insecurity, or you will continue to compromise and hurt yourself because you don’t believe you are worthy of their respect. Loving yourself is knowing that you deserve a voice and respect in this relationship; loving yourself is knowing that you deserve a defined goal in life; loving yourself is knowing the boundaries of personal spaces between the two of you; and lastly, loving yourself is knowing how you should be treated and how you should treat your lover without shedding your dignity.
Yes, beautiful face and sexy figure can get you the initial attraction, a temperate flame of passion, but it won’t be able to fuel the feelings and vows between the couple going. They say you need to learn to walk before you can run, then learn to love yourself before you try to love anyone else, because that’s the only way you won’t get yourself hurt in the long run.